A few days ago I rebooted my old Macbook and stumbled upon a file I wrote on October 25th 2009. This file was a time capsule that I decided to write and planned to open on Aias's third birthday. I had completely forgotten, but found it again, just in time.
What's inside the time capsule? All my parenting predictions, opinions, and thoughts... BEFORE actually becoming a parent and raising a baby/toddler. Why did I do it? I wanted to know if I'd REALLY change after becoming a parent... it seemed impossible that I would, but what did I know!
I am not going to open it until Aias's birthday (November 8th) and it will be hilarious to read. I already know there are so many things I said I'd "never" do that I've not only done... but that I do regularly!
I strongly suggest that every pregnant person I know do this. In the next few days, I'll type out some of the questions I asked myself (I believe they are on my computer in a separate file) and then you can use or modify them, and then save them on your computer or print them out and tuck them away. Answer truthfully and be thorough. You won't need to answer to anyone, only your future self.
I know this is a cliche, but there's a reason for it... becoming a parent is truly life altering. You can never really know the kind of parent you'll be until you live it. You'll also never know what kind of kid you'll have until you meet them, even if you've had kids already. People told me this over and over, and I even told this to myself, but I didn't really understand what it meant until after Aias was born.
If anything, I think this exercise will end up being a few things. First off, hilarious. I already know of a few things I backtracked on almost immediately (Aias is totally watching Max and Ruby right now on Netflix, that was never going to happen right...). Second, thought provoking. Third, a good time to eat my own words. Finally, a time to reflect on how we perceive other parents and their parenting intentions and actions.
I'll leave you with this post I made a long time ago, it's one of my favourites as it talks about how perfect I was at parenting before I ever became a parent ;)
And stay tuned, because I'll be posting the results of my time capsule on Aias birthday...
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