|Internet: like crack for parents.|
|Thanks to the Internet, even a total schmuck can become the best parent EVAR!|
By and large, Aias owes a lot to the Internet. Aside from the fact that his father and I met on a dating site so without the Internet he very likely would not even exist, he also has the Internet to thank for the fact that he still has a foreskin, is still breastfed at nearly 2 years old, and is still happily rear facing in his car seat. Without the Internet, I honestly wouldn't have encountered information on any of those topics in my immediate family or circle of friends. I doubt if Morgan would have either. At the same time, some days I find myself worried that without disciplining myself, I'd spend more time on the Internet reading about how to parent him than I'd spend in the real world actually parenting him! Trust me, there's enough information flying around on here to keep someone occupied while their kid's whole life passes them by. Sure, they'll know a lot about parenting through their reading, but shouldn't we be spending more time actually parenting our children than just reading about it and talking about it on the Internet?
You may have noticed that I haven't been updating the blog as much lately, and there's a simple reason for that: Aias is having a sleep regression. You see, when Aias sleeps is when I allow myself to get online. My blogging strategy is to wait until Aias is having a nap or until after he's gone to bed, and then I pump out as many blog entries as I possibly can, set them to appear in the blog at a certain date and time and then *POOF* like magic my blog is populated. Entries auto-appear in the blog, they get auto-posted to twitter and facebook thanks to Networked Blogs, and all the while I could be at the spray park or playground completely disconnected. Voila! This is a fantastic strategy, that is, unless your kid is refusing to sleep without you being thisclose to him. No sleeping baby = no time to write entries = no entries. That's not to say, of course, that I'm entirely innocent when it comes to being online around my kid. I've been known to pop over to the computer as it sits on the counter from time to time during the day while Aias plays by himself. I'm also still horribly guilty of holding onto my Blackberry for dear life so I can interact on Facebook and gchat all day with friends and family all over the world, but give a stay-at-home mom a break!
I'm not saying it's bad to post on message boards or to blog or to chat on Facebook when your kids are around. In fact, if I were to say that it would honestly be a serious case of the pot calling the kettle black. I truly think that as adults, it's our responsibility to monitor and assess our own behaviors and how we spend our time and to determine for ourselves how much of it we think we should devote to our kids, our hobbies, etc. I personally find it a bit of a struggle to step away from the computer sometimes, but if there's one thing I've learned in the past 20 months, it's that none of the parenting information that exists on the Internet is more valuable than simply spending time with your kid. I think that actually may be the most important lesson I've taken from all this, and I didn't even have to use Google to come up with that conclusion.
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