Because I am currently in a heterosexual relationship, I guess I've been reaping the benefits of invisibility. People see Morgan and I on the street holding hands and they likely assume we are just a typical heterosexual couple and I am just a typical heterosexual woman. They read about our lives and they don't detect the slightest amount of difference. I guess in a way, I've been allowing this to happen. Actually, this blog paints the picture of heteronormativity in many ways. There's nothing on here that says I'm queer identified (bisexual if you want, whatever makes you comfortable). There's also nothing on here that says I'm for or against queer families or families that aren't nuclear. I feel like it's time for that to change. I think it's time for me to come out of the e-closet.
The loss of these friendships stung, but not for long. I quickly realized that while it hurts to lose a friend, I'm better off not having people like that in my life. More importantly, Aias is better off. Since making this blog public over the course of the past few weeks, I've been doing lots of blog hopping and checking out other people's blogs. Every time I follow a new blog or another blogger follows me, I feel the slightest bit of concern that I'll get close to another person just for them to find out about my sexuality and drop me like a bad habit. I searched around for GLBTQ family friendly blogs, and couldn't find many. Worst of all, I found myself looking at people's blogs and trying to "guess" if they would be "ok" with me or not. It was then that I decided to create a badge that people could put on their blogs to let their readers know that they are ok with all variations of family, no matter what labels society has for them.
And so Families Respecting Families is born.
I strongly encourage bloggers to put this badge on their site to assure their readers that their page is a safe space for difference. Putting the badge on your site does not mean you are GLBTQ, in fact, this is about so much more than just sexuality. This is about all the differences a family can have, and how we should celebrate these differences instead of opposing them. Adding the Families Respecting Families badge simply means you realize that all families are important regardless of the race, religious beliefs, colour, gender identity, physical disability, mental disability, age, ancestry, place of origin, marital status, source of income, sex, sexual orientation, or family status of the people that make up a given family. I want everyone who reads my blog to know that my family respects other families, regardless of the labels society has for them. All families deserve respect, especially from other families. When it comes right down to it, we're really not so different.
Please check out the Families Respecting Families page here:
You can also get there by clicking the image above. If you feel it in your heart that you can support this idea, please place the badge on your blog and encourage your friends to do so as well.
I admit that in posting this, I am concerned about losing followers on this blog. I'm concerned about a company Google-ing my name, finding this, and deciding they don't want to hire me because of my sexual orientation. I'm concerned that I am putting myself out there in a way that makes me vulnerable in ways I can't even think of. The fact is, I am who I am, and that's ok, and the same goes for you. Whoever you are, however your family looks from the outside or the inside, it's ok. In fact, it's more than ok. It's fantastic. If there is anyone who doesn't want to know you because you or your family are different, I can promise you it's their loss.
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